Real Talk No. 2 - The Importance of Being Present
You know when you haven't talked to your best friend in what seems like forever, so you pick up the phone and call her to only start right where you left off? Then you really get to talking and the deep conversations start to flow. And before you know it an hour has passed and it's time to get ready for bed (because #adulting). And as you're getting ready for bed you feel good. You feel good not only because you're washing the makeup off your face that's been caked on for 12+ hours, but also because you just had such an inspiring conversation that it left you feeling more refreshed than ever.
That was me a few weeks ago. I was catching up with my best friend and without realizing it, we started talking about the value of living in the moment and being present.
If I had to put a time frame on it, ever since Rob & I started dating, I became pretty good at living in the moment. I started to forget about the past because I finally realized that it was done & over with. There was no going back; no changing anything that had happened. I also started to worry less about the future because I finally realized you can't control what's meant to be.
Pre-Rob (for lack of a better phrase), I struggled with being present. I was letting something that happened in the past control my thoughts about the future. And it wasn't pretty. I was living each day crying about something that I couldn't change, rather than getting the f*ck over it. But when something affects you so deeply, it's impossible to just snap your fingers and let it go. Especially when you wear your heart on your sleeve like I do. You need time. Time to process, time to work through it, time to live and let go.
So, I'm not saying I woke up one morning and just decided I was going to forget about everything, move on, and focus on the now. But I did wake up one morning and decided that enough was enough. I was sick & tired of my past consuming me. I was so over worrying about a future that I really had no control over. I decided that it was time for me to make a change and start to focus on myself in my current situation.
Slowly but surely, everything started to fall into place. What I had been dwelling over for so long began to resolve itself. Putting time and energy into how I was feeling each day was making a huge difference in the way I was living my life. And then the unexpected happened and I found my soulmate when I wasn't even looking.
Call it love, call it fate, call it whatever you want. Something inside me changed. My mindset shifted. I started to really focus on what was happening in my life at the moment because it was all so unexpectedly sweet and I didn't want to miss a thing.
Now, to put it in perspective, Rob and I have been together for almost four years. That's four years of truly being mindful and absorbing every moment for what it's worth. I feel pretty confident in saying there's so much value in living in the moment and putting energy into your current situation. Of course you need to learn from the past and set goals for the future, but don't let those things consume you. Make an effort to be present and it will start to become second nature. Your mind will be at ease and your happiness will come from within. Time will pass and trust me - you don't want to miss anything. Life is a beautiful journey and we only have one life to live. Don't let it get away.
Thanks so much for stopping by <3
I hope this left you feeling inspired and reflecting on your current situation. Just know, it's never too late to start being more present.
PS. you can catch my first real talk post here!